There I said it.
I dont really care that you think its a made up holiday, created by a card company to remind you of your singleness or whatever. I don't care that you think people should show love all year and not just one day that's set aside on a calendar. I don't care that you think its fine to celebrate Christmas or the winter solstice, or even St. Patrick's Day but you cannot fathom why anyone would ever give in to such a silly day as Valentines Day.
The truth is you're right. It's an over commercialized holiday (like every holiday in America) and people should be showing love and doing sweet things for the people they care about all year. But, I just don't think it matters that there is a day to remind us of it. I think its okay that people who may not be as good at sharing their feelings have a day where they feel like they can. I think its okay that people have a day set aside to make sure people know they are loved. I think its okay.
I do not mean you have to give in to overpriced flowers, chocolates, and teddy bears that will end up in a pile at the local goodwill. I just mean lets let go of bitterness and complaining and take the time to love with full hearts (and maybe even wear a little pink while we do it).
My Valentine and I have never been in the same place. He was away at school for all the years we were dating and now his annual winter camping trip seems to always fall on the day of love. I dont ever mind because I know we will celebrate in our own time and in our own weird ways but this year he caught me by surprise and I loved it.
Thursday before he left for camping he put this on the counter. I was very excited. If you don't know my husband he is a super quiet soul. A letter is a perfect gift from him and all I could every really want. Verbalizing isn't one of his preferred pastimes, he loves with actions. So any time I can know his thoughts and (even better) hold them in my hand it is a true treasure to me. But much to my surprise the "ps" of my letter held a clue to send me on a little scavenger hunt through our house.
Each clue led me to another photo or memory hiding in our house. I had the best time alone in my peaceful home before work, running around and reading all the beautiful things my husband had to say about our life.
When he got home we had a super sweet dinner in, just the two of us. We talked about love and life and how everything will change next month when our little man joins the world and how excited we are to love him.
We celebrated love the rest of the weekend and I made a belated Valentines Day cake. I am glad Greg is so understanding. He gets that I move slower these days and somethings I plan may not happen right away but whenever I can get to it he is happy to stop everything and enjoy it with me.
I hope someone took the time this year to tell you that you're wonderful and loved. Even if it was just a nice text from your mom. I hope you take the time this year maybe even on more occasions than just February 14th to remind people how much you really care about them and how thankful you are to have love.
xoxo jess
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